FILTERING IS ALLOWED
One very essential thing that we need to possess in life is self-confidence and self-love, if you do not feel confident enough in your own skin, then you will fall for anything that is been thrown at you; it is like the popular saying that "If you don't stand for anything, you will fall for everything". You need to be able to stand for yourself at all times and no one has the power or authority to make you feel less of who you are or make you begin to doubt yourself; either by the words of their mouth or by their actions. Don't get me wrong, i am not saying that people's opinion does not count, i am saying to you that you have the ability to filter what goes in and out of your life because in all honesty, the life is yours and "Garbage in is Garbage out", if you do not filter what comes in and out of your life, then it comes to a point where whatever comes in is taking as the real thing and in little or less time, you begin to believe in what they say you are or in who they say you are.
It is like being in an abusive relationship and hoping that things would get better, the truth is things will never get better, and abusive relationship does not necessarily mean a boyfriend to girlfriend relationship, it could be in your job, in your immediate environment or even between your friends, every relationship that only sees the dead side of you, any relationship that only focus on those things you never get right is an abusive relationship; you need to decide what you will then stand for, will you constantly deal with being bashed and belittled day in, day out or would you rather put an end to the abuse and fight for who you really are, and the foundation of this is knowing who you really are and those things you stand for and strongly believe in.
Truth is the next person does not need to see what you are seeing because as the saying goes "it is not easy for a blind person to see something good" but you need a personal conviction on who you are and what you stand for, so regardless of what they say or how they feel, it does not determine who you are or what you stand for. My believe before now is "listen to people, they know you more than you think" but i have come to realize that nobody can know you more than you know yourself; so in essence, filter what comes in to your ears because that is the beginning of what goes into your life, if you do not determine what your relationship now, it will have one of two effects on you, either make you or break you. It is better to choose the former, so that you don't end up being hurt and spiteful.
I am a strong believer in respecting other people and not trampling on their emotions like they do not have one, so anyone around you that does not respect that deserves no room no matter how little it can be, they do not deserve it.
Remember you are made in the image of the MOST HIGH so no one is a better you than you, constantly remind yourself of that fact.
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