CREATED COMPLETE
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| Enjoy being you |
Ladies, a great quality that we possess that is hidden to many of us is; self confidence and an independent spirit; a lot of ladies do not know the efficacy of actually having this as a part of the virtue but i say to you today that having this is what stands you out among the bunch of ladies that we have in this time and age. What i have come to realize with time is that what gives you an edge that you cannot understand is your ability to be self-sufficient, you do not need to be completed by another specie because you are already completed in yourself; think of it like this "You are a creature of God and God does not make incomplete therefore, you are a finished product". As much as i am not of the school of thought that a man and a woman has equal rights because that was not the intentions of God as He clearly stated in His word that "The man is the HEAD", and God cannot be mocked, i am not also of the school of thought that a woman should build all life around a man, because what if that man leaves, what would you do, i am of the school of thought that a woman should build her life around God and be self-sufficient
For years i used to wonder why you would be in a relationship with a man and he would be very comfortable and convenient not to reach out to you for days or he is not as cliche to you as you are to his being; I battled with this for a long time and i conveniently convinced myself that i wasn't the problem and that any guy that was not committed and dedicated to his relationship is not matured enough to handle it, like why did you go into the relationship if you are not willing to give your 101%, i did not understand why he would tell me he doesn't feel like talking right now or going out or even want to hang out with "his friends", so are you telling me that your friends are more importantly than me and all these just keeps running through my head as a result, i wasn't happy in most of my relationships which at that moment sucked a lot.
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| Enjoy your company, you need time to meditate |
But as time passed, i started to attend singles meetings, reading books on relationship and all that and then i started to see things the other way; the fact that we are in a relationship does not mean i should choke you with my presence, there should be space to breathe and an opportunity to miss each other, you know, hang out with your friends, and let him hang out with his, more importantly, this is the time to seek more of God and spiritual guidance on the progress of the relationship. Your ability to enjoy your company is your ability to make his company worthwhile. If you are always in his face, he gets tired and then bored, I am not saying that you should because of this fact turn blind eyes to obvious things going around and definitely not because you are giving space start ignore your man and make him feel less important or that feminism comes to play and you start feeling like you have an equal right, i am saying that be deeply rooted in God that a man would have to go through him to find you, and be self-sufficient, enjoy life, have fun and DO NOT build your life around a man, give him space when it is needed and love him regardless.
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